Good post Sarah!!!

"I de-clutch, you know." Juan Manuel Fangio when asked how he avoids flat-spotting his tires when he spins the car.

"si vis pacem, para bellum"

 I do not feel men should be "tough" or "enjoy violence"  I do believe men are more genetically predisposed to engage in offensive violence the "agressor of the species" if you will.  I have found women tend to engage in defensive violence "the protector of the species" if you will, for instance defending her children.  

That said, I believe that there are two types of violence.  Unjust violence, which is destructive and serves no purpose except to destroy for the sake of destroying, and just violence, which is violence used to protect and ensure survival.  

I am nonviolent myself, perhaps a mindset born of a less than ideal childhood.  I will do everything I can to avoid a violent personal encounter, but if given no choice I will use every appropriate level of force to ensure my own wellbeing or that of another.  

Sound weird?  Some say so.  

I believe that that society needs to place more emphasis on unjust violence, which in turn will cut down on the need for righteous violence.  However while trying to tame unjust violence, I do not believe that the capability for just violence should be removed from society.  I do not believe unjust violence will ever be removed from society as a whole, and that we must stand ever vigilant against it, through prevention means, and through protective means.   

"si vis pacem, para bellum"