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Accept Responsibility, Use Direct Communication

Submitted by Sarah on Fri, 11/25/2005 - 11:22am.

Principles of Conflict Resolution

5. Accept Responsibility
Every conflict has many sides and there is enough responsibility for everyone. Attempting to place blame only creates resentment and anger that heightens any existing conflict. In order to resolve a conflict we must accept our share of the responsibility and eliminate the concept of blame.
6. Use Direct Communication
Say what we mean and mean what we say. Avoid hiding the ball by talking around a problem. The best way to accomplish this is to use "I-Messages". With an "I-Message" we express our own wants, needs or concerns to the listener. "I-Messages" are clear and non-threatening way of telling others what we want and how we feel. A "you-message" blames or criticizes the listener. It suggests that she or he is at fault.

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I recommend checking out the

Submitted by Robert Whitlock on Sat, 11/26/2005 - 12:23am.

I recommend checking out the non-violent communication idea. Rick posted a comment about it recently.

I don't think this is a panacea by any means. But it has helped me to better understand myself, and my motivations - and help me communicate more effectively I think.

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